A Military Spouse Conference That Was Productive

This last week my spouse and I attended the annual ACC Commander’s and Spouses conference in Langley, VA. I was excited to go! I was hoping to learn a few things about our role for the next few years.

We arrived on a Tuesday night so that we could go to the icebreaker social. They held it in a very cool location-an old armory. It was called The Vanguard and it is a multi-functional space. There was a trivia night going on while we were eating and drinking upstairs.

Wednesday was when the conference actually started. I was slightly nervous. Not only were there General Officer spouses there but you never know how these things are going.

My unrest was initially justified. Our principle leader started the conference with a question to us: “What do you bring to the table?” Talk about intimidation! The purpose of the question was to get us to open up and not only state our name and where we are from. Many times military spouses associate themselves with their husband’s or wives rank as opposed to their own identity.

That little nudge meant a lot. It reminded us that we are our own people. The week continued with similar boosts to our lives. We heard about creating communities, the new health system that is being implemented, as well as how to mobilize in a crisis.

We had speakers from all over but a special surprise was from a military spouse who had started her own business. Katelyn Tinsley began her non-profit, Homefront Room Revival, to fill a need. She wanted a way to give purpose to spouses as well as help them create their own home. The business helps E-5 and below Airmen and their families to furnish their homes by using cast-off furniture and simple DIY projects. She also does “Dec the Deployment” where she brightens up the lives of spouses by decorating their homes for the holidays.

Listening to Katelyn about her non-profit at the conference

We got a tutorial in reverse canvas art. Katelyn and some of her team brought a craft for us to do. We stenciled fall art onto the canvas and then we were able to take it home afterwards. I’m not usually that crafty but I was able to do it. It’s empowering to create something from nothing.

Fun before the craft

One of the best parts of the conference was when we toured NASA. We had a briefing on the newest trip to the moon called Artemis. Artemis is the female twin of Apollo and the new mission is woman-centric. Then the trajectory is to head to Mars. It sounds very exciting.

We went on to the Landing and Impact center where they initially practiced how Apollo would land on the moon. It is a huge structure with a landing pool and everything. Now they use it to test planes, the seats on them and other various vehicles. The videos alone were worth it!

Talk about a beast! Great side trip away from the conference room

We also spent time at the National Transonic Facility which houses a giant wind tunnel. Unfortunately, we couldn’t step inside of it since they were ready to do a test run later in the week. And then we saw a robot at work in another building. That robot, ISAAC, is working to standardize composites within structures. That brief was way over my head but the robot was cool.

This week gave me hope that these conferences are worth it. The planners just need to remember to save some time for chit-chatting with fellow attendees. That’s the real reason we go anyways!

What I Learned At Alice’s Circular Summit (2018)

Originally published by NextGenMilSpouse on March 5, 2018

The two-day Circular Summit is the brainchild of Alice’sfounder, Carolyn Rodz, and its president, Elizabeth Gore. These two women have created a circle where female entrepreneurs can pitch, scale and learn about their businesses.

Circular Summit is non-stop workshops, panels and speakers. The quality of people there to help you on your entrepreneurial journey is incredible. The panelists were from every facet of business including one comprised of local women. There were politicians on hand to listen to obstacles that your company faced. Alice also invited venture capitalists and angel investors to connect with female entrepreneurs. And with a cap of 300 attendees, there was plenty of opportunities to network and ask questions.

But don’t take my word for it. Read about what I learned at Circular Summit and find out why you should take advantage of this opportunity when it comes to a location near you!

Talking Money At Circular Summit

Arlen Hamiltonstrives to provide venture capital to underserved women.

Did you know that only 2% of venture capital goes to women and .02% goes to women of color?

Her best advice was to “be hungry, not thirsty” when pitching ideas to investors. Similarly, Kathryn Finney hammered home the thought that “closed mouths don’t get fed, so open your mouth.”

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To this end, Takia Ross said that she creates an alter-ego when she enters a room for a pitch. It helps give her confidence so that she “isn’t going to ask you for the money, you’re going to give it to me” because she is a boss.

Women, in general, have a tendency to LET things happen rather than MAKING them happen.

What I Learned At Alice's Circular Summit

Entrepreneurship Is Messy, Don’t Go It Alone

Melissa Bradleyspoke passionately about knowing what is a pivot and what is a distraction. A pivot moves your purpose forward or helps you to find your passion while a distraction takes you away from it. And when you aren’t sure what is what, you need a sponsor to help you.

Laurie Fabiano, the president of the Tory Burch Foundation feels strongly that there is a difference between a sponsor and a mentor. A mentor is there to answer your questions; a sponsor helps you succeed.

“Entrepreneurship is messy,” said Jonathan Ortmans, “You shouldn’t have to go it alone.”

There are people and resources available to you no matter where you live. Don’t forget that Aliceis an AI platform that offers this service. Their job is to connect entrepreneurs to resources in an online setting.

Value Connection Over Transaction

Jen Gotch, the brains behind ban.do, wanted women to understand that you should “value connection over transaction.” And when focusing on your social media, you should do it organically; focus on people who agree with your product, don’t force connections.

That message was reiterated by Shay Johnsonby emphasizing the need for entrepreneurs to tell their creation story. It connects you to your audience and makes your customer care about you and your product.

Startup Therapy When You Are Ready To Grow Your Business

One of the most beneficial segments of this conference was the “startup therapy” sessions. This was a time to get one-on-one with a sponsor who could offer advice on your business and help you in any way they can. Bunker Labs, the non-profit organization that helps military spouses grow their businesses, were on-hand as well as a few military spouses who have already paved they way in their field. This opportunity is worth the cost of admission!

How is this summit different from other conferences, you ask? I’ve gotten great advice and I’ve seen networking elsewhere, so why Circular Summit? They have all the bells and whistles you expect for the price of admission.

What really sets them apart is the intimacy.

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What I Learned At Alice's Circular Summit

One of the intimate practices is called the Giving Tree. You remember Shel Silverstein’s poem? This concept is based on that. You take a “leaf” and write what you would like. You add your business card to that leaf and wait. Then you look on the “tree” and find someone you can help; something you can GIVE.

But the most significant point is that the Circular Summit isn’t about passing around business cards and waiting to hear from people. As noted earlier, there are investors readily available to hear your elevator pitch. Plus you can participate in “therapy” sessions to receive advice. All of these points are key to success in business. It’s like a giant spouse’s group for work; you don’t just network, you build connections and friendships.

And for Alice, it’s all in a (two) day’s work.